If we think about our relationship with our parents and the roles they played, our mothers were usually the ones who would spend their entire day around us and the one we could talk to or confide in because they were the one who were most actively involved in our lives. Our dads on the other hand, for most people, are usually either the stoic figure or the person with whom we could crack a few jokes with but never really touched important topics as much with. Dads were usually the providers while mothers acted as emotional caretakers.
This was mostly a result of generations of implied gender roles and norms that were passed on, however, it doesn’t have to be that way. Norms are changing and men are now no longer the only earners. Men are being encouraged to break past the stoic act and to be more open with their emotions and that is honestly really important for both yourself as a person and, for you as a parent as well.
Children need to establish a proper, healthy relationship with both parents in order to be able to establish similarly good relationships later on in life. You are the most basic and primary relationship in their life and that will set the tone for their relationship with other men in their lives. It is also necessary for you to be involved because you will find out so much more about your children this way because some things are best learnt when you see them for yourself, plus it will bring you closer together as a family. So, get involved; go for school events, listen to them with attention when they talk to you, make memories with them, and don’t forget to tell them how much you love them every chance you get. For more about dad parenting, you can visit Yorkshire Dad for more posts on the matter.